I started playing tennis again; I’d been looking for a court and finally found one close to my apartment. Last time I played was in 8th grade…you can probably guess how well I did the first day back. The other players there were really good and nice too; one guy in particular, we’ll call him ‘Jay’, talked to me about my game and even played a couple sets to help me practice. Few weeks went by and one day, Jay and I sat talking; turns out we had a lot in common and we probably wouldn’t have met if not for tennis. I remember driving home after our conversation, thinking – that was refreshing, why is it so hard to find friends as adults?
It’s not like people don’t want friends; “three out of every five adults, or 61%, report that they sometimes or always feel lonely, according to the second annual Cigna U.S. Loneliness Index”1. I think the reason we find it difficult to make friends as adults is because we think too much; we have a mental checklist for the other person to fit before we even approach them and I get it, experience makes us jaded. Instead of searching for friends, try making connections – the good ones could lead to friendships while the bad ones, well they improve our communication skills.
1Coombs, Bertha. “Loneliness Is on the Rise and Younger Workers and Social Media Users Feel It Most, Cigna Survey Finds.” CNBC, CNBC, 23 Jan. 2020, 6:05pm EST, www.cnbc.com/2020/01/23/loneliness-is-rising-younger-workers-and-social-media-users-feel-it-most.html.